“Healing the Perfectionistic Parts of Ourselves” with Renee Litt, LMFT
In Episode 100 of the Thoughts from the Couch podcast, Justine sits down with therapist Renee Litt for a powerful conversation about perfectionism and the “striver” part that so many women lean on to feel safe and in control. Using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach, they explore how this part formed, why it works so hard, and what it believes it’s protecting us from.
Together, they unpack the key IFS concepts of managers, firefighters, and exiles, and how these inner roles shape the way we think, react, and push ourselves. Renee explains how the striver part often develops from early experiences or inherited patterns, and how it can quietly take over our decisions, leaving us anxious, drained, or overly self-critical.
Their conversation offers a hopeful, compassionate path toward healing perfectionism by learning to meet this part with curiosity instead of judgment. Listeners will walk away with a clearer picture of how to reconnect with their grounded Self and ease the pressure of striving so they can move through life with more balance and self-trust.
Learn more about how perfectionism could get in the way of your happiness.
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